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Shots gone wrong and FB rant.

This madness called for a Facebook post tonight. To let people really see the face of infertility. Here's what I posted.


"This is what infertility really looks like. Tonight was double shot night where I have to give myself 2 shots of 2 different drugs, in my ass (behind me), on my left side (I'm right handed), without help because of M's fear of needles. And this is what happens when that goes wrong. So often I struggle in silence and try my best to keep strong. But tonight my rage, frustration and sadness has gotten the best of me. I have another 7 days of this nightly routine only to go for a biopsy - not even for an attempt at a transfer. I am a real life science experiment. I post this to vent, and to bring awareness to the true struggles of infertility. Shining a light on the darkness that plagues some people's lives with no one knowing. Suffering in the shadows is part of the greatest pain."

I got a huge outpouring of support and people have told me that they think it is great that I am open about my infertility struggles and sharing my experience.

Duke knew I was sad so he gave me snuggles. He always knows when I need his love.


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