A year ago today we did our first IVF transfer.

We transferred two of our three embryos and had high hopes. Sadly those two didn't take and we were devastated. But as this anniversary comes to pass we have so much more hope thanks to our embryo donors. We thought we only had one more shot, but now thanks to our donors we have 5 more chances with their 4 snowflakes and our remaining one. We are so full of gratitude for these people who have given us so much hope. We plan to transfer our first donated embryo next month! Happy New Year.

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A Talisman Appears

I'd been thinking about wanting to buy something representative of this journey. Something kind of like a talisman that I could look at or wear that would remind me of where I'd like to be with a child someday. I found this and I originally paused to look at it because it is elephants and they are my favorite animal. But then when I looked further I realized the image spoke to me of a mamma going it alone with her little one. There it was! My talisman. I will hang it in my stairwell next to my bedroom so that at night when I go up to bed I see it and I fall asleep ready to manifest making my SMC dream come true. On a side note... I was in Toys R Us shopping for Christmas and I wandered over to the Baby's R Us part of the store. Every other time I've gone there in the past I dread it, I am riddled with anxiety and utterly uncomfortable when shopping for other people's little ones. I think "What am I doing here? I don't have a bloody clue about any of this ...

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This week as my journey continues I seem to have turned the page from being excited and certain that this is what is right for me and what I want to a chapter of separateness, fear and sadness. I feel all alone and like no one can understand what I am going through. I spend time with my niece and nephew and bombard my sisters with questions on what it is REALLY like to be a mom. Is there ever resentment when you get so tired and have no time to yourself? How do you have the energy to keep up? How do you know if you're giving your child enough time, energy and love, when there are so many other things to do to just make it through the week? How do I really think I'm going to pull this off? I feel withdrawn, lonely and overwhelmed. Trying to guess all the variables and go through the work to grieve the loss of the dream of a man to raise my child with met is all a lot to deal with. And then there's the issue of what if I never find a man to love again? Am I dooming m...

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I've spent the past few days researching adoption. I've been engulfed in listening to podcasts from Adoption Now and I met with a woman from my Houston IVF support group. She adopted within 2 months from Adoption Alliance and has a 16 month old son. She broke down a lot of the barriers I thought were on our way: 1. She is loving here on visas and doesn't have her green card 2. They agency was not adamant about her being done with her Ivf journey 3. It only took her 2 months to get chosen by her birth mom. Yesterday after listening to some very heartbreaking stories I was really not sure I could go through with the whole process. All of the people on the podcast said it is not for the faint of heart, it's the toughest thing you'll ever go through, it is a war and a battle like no other. Frankly I'm not sure my heart can take more heartache. But after telling Mike about this fears he is still very much on this adoption train. He just wants to be a dad alrea...

The Motherhood Milestone

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